There are tons of Christian dating myths that might be keeping you stuck in your single season and uncertain about God’s will for your life. In this post, we’re busting the top three myths about Christian dating to help you on your journey to finding love.
Christian Dating Myth #1
God has one perfect person picked out for you, and single life is a journey to find them.
While it’s comforting to believe God has your “soulmate” picked out for you, it actually doesn’t say that in the Bible. Instead, it says that humans have free will–and one of the things we have the freedom to do is choose a life-long partner.
Does God care about who you date? Yes! Are there Biblical principles to consider when choosing someone to date and marry? Absolutely! But is there one person for everyone, handpicked by God? The Bible doesn’t say there is.
Christian Dating Myth #2
You’ll never get married if you’re too picky.
Contrary to popular belief, being picky has advantages when it comes to Christian dating. It's natural and healthy to be selective about potential partners; being picky can actually allow you to assess your needs in a relationship and ensure you find someone who is right for you.
That said, it’s important to remember that no one is perfect–true love isn't always based on finding the perfect soulmate. Setting too high of expectations can lead to disappointment down the road, so it's best to focus on identifying the values, traits, and qualities that are most important in a partner rather than trying to find someone who meets every possible requirement.
Christian Dating Myth #3
You should always and only ever date to marry.
While the concept of dating for marriage is a good one, it’s not a hard and fast “rule” of Christian dating. If you’re dipping your toe into the dating scene for the first time (or the first time in a while), you might not feel ready for marriage yet, and that’s ok.
What’s most important is to protect yourself and the people you date by being honest and setting boundaries. Be honest with yourself and them about your intentions, and make sure you are on the same page so that neither gets hurt or blindsided by the relationship. And set boundaries so you can date without dishonoring God or His intentions for relationships.