As you know, marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It is a serious commitment that requires preparation. By understanding your spiritual role in marriage and God’s design for a life-long commitment, you can ensure you’re putting your best foot forward now and in the future.
4 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Marriage as a Christian Man
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, there are things you can do now to prepare yourself for marriage. From practical tips to spiritual truths, here are four ways to prepare yourself to be the best godly husband you can be.
1. Find Your Identity in Christ
The world has many opinions on what makes a man “husband material.” But the most important thing a man can bring to the table is a strong identity rooted in Christ. As you prepare for marriage, take time to invest in a deeper study of scripture, spending quality time in prayer and engaging in a meaningful relationship with God. Doing so will help you cultivate a strong faith that can serve as a guide throughout your journey of implementing Christian values into your daily life as you become one with your partner.
2. Learn Practical Skills
You don’t have to be “Mr. Fix It” to be a good, godly husband. However, it is a good idea to enter into a marriage with some practical skills under your belt. This can be anything from how to make a few good meals to how to communicate and work through conflict effectively. Proverbs 31:10-31 describes a “wife of noble character,” but it also mentions a few characteristics of a noble husband. He is someone who works hard and takes care of his own business. He isn’t lazy or dismissive but provides for his family and works diligently to be the best man he can be for his wife, family, and community.
3. Practice Putting Others First
Most people are familiar with the scripture that tells wives to submit to their husbands. But it’s equally important to read the verse before that one in Ephesians 5:21, which says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Husbands are also called to submit and humbly serve their wives. Ephesians 5:23 says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself…” A man is called to be a leader in a marriage, but the best leaders are husbands who love and put their wives first.
4. Take Care of Yourself
Happy, healthy marriages are possible when both people are healthy in mind, body, and spirit. Without being too stereotypical, it’s safe to say that most men understand physical health, whether that’s going to the gym or making sure to eat some veggies. But spiritual and emotional health are just as essential, especially when preparing yourself for marriage.
In a marriage, you’ll need to be able to voice your feelings, regulate your emotions, and handle difficult situations with grace. By putting the same amount of intentionality into your emotional and spiritual well-being, you will set yourself up for a healthy, godly marriage. So start preparing yourself today to be the best husband you can be.