Marriage is a wonderful part of life and can be a beautiful journey if both spouses prepare for it. This means taking the time to understand God's plan for marriage and how husbands and wives are meant to interact in their relationship. Knowing your spiritual role in marriage and understanding God's commands provides you with wisdom that will guide you in creating a healthy relationship with your partner now and in the future.
4 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Marriage as a Christian Woman
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, there are things you can do now to prepare yourself for marriage. From practical tips to spiritual truths, here are four ways to prepare yourself to be the best godly wife you can be.
1. Find Your Identity in Christ
You must find and root your identity in Christ. Rather than finding your worth in worldly things, such as material possessions, success, or physical appearance, you must find your worth in who Jesus says you are. You are a beloved child of God–you belong to Him first and foremost. You aren’t looking for someone else (like a husband) to complete you.
Because the truth is, whoever you marry will let you down, and you’ll also make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. But when your identity is rooted in Christ, you can navigate the ups and downs of a marriage relationship in a Christ-like manner, knowing your guidance and comfort come from Him.
2. Learn Practical Skills
Although we’re not living in the 50s when a wife’s primary role was to cook, clean, and look after the kids, it’s good to have some practical skills under your belt. This can be anything from how to make a few good meals to how to communicate and work through conflict effectively. Proverbs 31:10-31 describes a “wife of noble character.” She is strong, selfless, skilled in business and homemaking, and, most importantly, diligently works to be the best wife, mother, and woman for her family and community.
3. Practice Putting Others First
Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Putting this scripture into practice is a great way to prepare yourself for marriage from a biblical perspective. A marriage requires humbly serving your spouse and putting their needs above your own. And it works because both spouses should come into the marriage with this mindset. That way, both people get what they need in the relationship.
4. Take Care of Yourself
Happy, healthy marriages are possible when both people are healthy in mind, body, and spirit. So, take time now to prepare yourself for marriage by focusing on your wellness. Start practicing healthy habits like reading your bible and moving your body daily.
A strong sense of mental and emotional well-being allows you the stability and resilience to handle times of hardship in your relationship with grace. Keeping your body healthy and at its best means having more energy to realign and restore when necessary. Finding a balance with your spiritual life gives you perspective and purpose in difficult and exciting moments. All of these things are important for a healthy, godly marriage. So start preparing yourself today to be the best wife you can be.