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What to Do When You Like Two People at Once


What to do when you like two people at once

Have you found yourself caught in the middle of liking two people at the same time? It's a confusing and complex situation that can leave you questioning your feelings and what steps to take next. As a Christian, you might also be wondering how this aligns with your faith and values. Keep reading to find out what to do. 


Is It Normal to Like Two People at the Same Time?

Absolutely! This is especially common in the world of app dating, where you're likely having conversations with multiple people at once. Each person may highlight different qualities that appeal to you, leading to a mix of emotions. It's important to remember that attraction is natural and doesn't necessarily reflect on your character or choices.


Is It Okay to Date Two People at the Same Time?

Whether it's okay to date two people simultaneously can be a matter of personal conviction. As a Christian, it's beneficial to pray and consider what God would have you do in this situation. Honesty is paramount — if you decide to date both individuals, make sure they know you’re not exclusive and set boundaries that respect everyone involved. And remember, there's a distinct difference between dating (exploring potential partners) and being in a committed relationship with two people, which could lead to hurt feelings and complications.


What to Do When You Like Two People

Liking two people is a tricky situation to be in, but there are a few things you can do to help sort out your feelings and choose the best person for you. 


  1. Journal Your Feelings: Writing down your thoughts and emotions can provide clarity and help you understand your feelings better. Whether it’s a pros and cons list or simply free-writing your feelings about each person, this form of self-expression can serve as a powerful tool to untangle your emotions and see things from a clearer perspective.

  2. Discuss with a Trusted Friend: Sharing your dilemma with a close friend or mentor can offer a fresh perspective and valuable advice. They might see a compatibility issue with one of the people that you hadn’t seen or point out red flags that make it easier to choose one person over another. 

  3. Consider Your Dating Goals: Reflect on what you're looking for in a relationship. For example, if you want a serious, committed relationship, you might choose the person who seems ready for that level of commitment. If you prefer something more casual, the person who enjoys freedom and independence could be a better match.

  4. Pray for Guidance: As a Christian, turning to prayer in times of confusion can provide comfort and direction. God knows which person is a better match for you and can help guide you in the right direction. 

  5. Consider Being Friends First: Before making any hasty decisions, consider stepping back and building a friendship with both individuals. This gives you the chance to know them better without the pressures of commitment. Plus, it's a great way to see who you naturally vibe with more. Over time, your feelings might become clearer, helping you make a decision that feels right.


Remember, liking two people at the same time doesn’t make you a bad person. However, before plunging into a relationship, it's crucial to untangle your emotions. Ask God for wisdom and discernment to navigate this delicate situation in the best way possible.

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Guest
Mar 19

Matched with one and A like from someone else so I don't understand it either

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Mar 19

This is hard because if you tell someone that you are talking to somebody else too they might not want to talk to you anymore and then the other person might have a deal breaker soon after that and then you miss out on the other person. Another thing is you don’t know who is going to respond to you so your third choice may respond first and then after you start liking them your first choice messages you. I think you owe it to yourself to find out about that person too because after all if you are looking for someone permanent like marriage you don’t want to wonder. Ask God to keep the door open or close i…

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Guest
Mar 19

I just randomly got sent this saying I like two people at the same time but I don’t. What’s even going on?

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Guest
Mar 19

No… it’s not okay to date two people at once.

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Guest
Mar 21
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Nice try, but polygamy was never part of God's design. He allowed it to happen, but just like lying (Jacob) and murder (Moses), the mere fact that a Biblical hero did something doesn't automatically forestall the possibility of it being a sin.


As for the original question, the first reply is correct, as is the article: what matters is that boundaries and expectations be set. Is the other person expecting an exclusive relationship, or is it understood that you're still in the "I haven't settled on one person yet" phase?

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