Deciding to go all-in with a relationship, especially one that leads to marriage, is a big step. But how do you know if you’re ready to commit? With some personal reflection and help from God’s Word, you can decide whether you’re prepared to take the next step in a relationship.
4 Signs You’re Ready To Commit to a Relationship
After spending time on dating apps and going on first dates, eventually, you’ll find someone you want to go on a second date with… and hopefully many more! When that time comes, here are four signs you’re ready to commit:
1. You're Willing to Sacrifice
Commitment requires selflessness. 1 Corinthians 13:5 reminds us that love “is not self-seeking.” If you’re willing to put your partner’s needs ahead of your own and make sacrifices for the relationship, it shows a level of maturity and readiness to commit.
2. You Trust Your Partner Completely
Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. Proverbs 31:11 states, “The heart of her husband trusts in her.” If you find that you can trust your partner wholeheartedly and feel secure in your relationship, it’s a strong sign you’re ready to take the next step.
3. You Feel a Deep Sense of Peace
Philippians 4:7 speaks of “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding.” If you feel a deep, abiding peace when you think about committing to your partner, this could be God's way of affirming your decision. This peace often comes from a place of prayer and seeking God's will for your life.
4. You’re Ready to Let Go of Individual Goals for a Shared Vision
Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Being ready to commit means you’re prepared to merge your individual dreams with your partner’s, creating a shared vision for your future (and building a strong Christian marriage).
4 Signs You’re Not Ready To Commit to a Relationship
Maybe you’ve found someone you’re interested in getting to know better, but you aren’t sure you’re ready to fully commit. Here are four signs to help you decide:
1. You Struggle with Selfishness
Commitment requires putting someone else’s needs above your own. Philippians 2:3 advises, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” If you find it hard to prioritize your partner’s needs, it might be a sign you’re not ready to take things to the next level.
2. You Avoid Difficult Conversations
Avoiding tough discussions can be a red flag. Proverbs 27:5 tells us, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love.” If you shy away from difficult conversations, you may need more time to work on your communication before committing fully.
3. You Feel Constant Anxiety
Feeling anxious about commitment could signal some unresolved issues. Philippians 4:6 advises, “Do not be anxious about anything.” If anxiety overwhelms your thoughts about the future, it might be best to take more time for reflection and prayer.
4. You’re Not Ready to Compromise
Successful relationships require compromise. Amos 3:3 asks, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” If you’re not ready to meet your partner halfway on important matters, it might be a sign that you need more time to grow.
What’s most important is that you’re honest with yourself and the person you’re dating about whether you’re ready to take the next step in your relationship. Remember to seek God's guidance during this time, trusting that He will lead you down the right path.
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