There are lots of things you can do to prepare for marriage. (We talk about them in our women’s marriage guide and marriage guide for men.) But how do you know when you're truly ready to take that next step into a Christian marriage? It's not just about ticking boxes or reaching certain milestones in your relationship or personal life. Keep reading for some key signs that point to you being ready for a Christ-centered marriage, where faith, love, and commitment intertwine to create a strong foundation for your future together.
Sign 1: You Have a Strong Relationship with God
Before entering into a marriage, you must have a solid and personal relationship with God. This isn't just about going to church on Sundays or participating in Bible study; it's about having a deep, personal connection with God that guides your daily life. When God is at the center of your life, you're better prepared to be a loving and committed partner in a marriage.
Sign 2: You Understand the Importance of Selflessness
Marriage is not about what you can get but what you can give. Being ready for a Christian marriage means you understand the importance of selflessness and are prepared to put your partner's needs above your own. This doesn't mean neglecting your needs but rather finding a balance where you both feel loved, valued, and respected. Philippians 2:3-4 encourages us, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."
Sign 3: You're Prepared for Commitment
Commitment in a Christian marriage goes beyond staying together through the good times; it's about sticking together through the challenges, too. Being ready for marriage means you understand the weight of the vows you'll be taking and are prepared to work through difficulties, communicate effectively, and grow together. It's acknowledging that marriage is a covenant, not just a contract, and you're ready to uphold your end of that covenant.
Sign 4: You Have Realistic Expectations About Marriage
Marriage isn't a fairy tale. Understanding that is a clear sign you're ready for a Christian marriage. While there will be plenty of joy and love, there will also be challenges and conflicts. Being prepared means you have realistic expectations and are willing to invest time and effort into building a strong, lasting relationship. You know perfection doesn't exist, and you're ready to embrace the imperfections that come with marriage.
Recognizing these signs in yourself can indicate that you're not just ready for marriage but a Christian marriage that honors God and lays a strong foundation for a lifetime of love and partnership.