Are you over it? Over swiping right on someone only not to match with them? Over messaging someone only for it not to lead to anything more? Over going on first dates where there’s no hope for a second? Over thinking someone could be “the one” only to get your heart broken?
Christian dating is not for the faint of heart; it is easy to burn out and want to give up. If you’re feeling over it, here are five ways to avoid Christian dating burnout and keep the hope of love alive!
Try Slow Dating
While you may want your single season to end sooner than later, you have a better chance of that happening if you slow down. Rather than swipe as quickly and as many potential matches as possible, read each profile closely. Look for shared values, interests, and goals that could be a great foundation for a lasting relationship. Don’t write someone off because of their main photo or opening line. Take your time and give yourself a chance to find someone genuinely right for you.
Taking breaks is essential to avoid Christian dating burnout. Consider stepping away from all dating apps for a week to focus on your mental health. Or, set boundaries for yourself–no dating apps on Sundays or a maximum of 20 minutes of swiping daily. It’s easy to become obsessed with checking for new matches and messages on your quest for love, but it can also start to feel like a second job. So, take your “two-week vacation” from dating and allow yourself to reset and refresh.
Mix It Up
Get some fresh ideas for how to message first on a dating app. Plan a unique first date you haven’t done yet–or a cool virtual date if you’re meeting someone over video chat. Swiping. Matching. Messaging. It can all get pretty redundant, so don’t be afraid to mix it up, try something new, and keep your Christian dating experience fun! Ready to try Upward?
Practice Self Care
Taking care of yourself emotionally and spiritually is essential to avoid Christian dating burnout.
Prioritize getting eight hours of sleep every night.
Establish healthy boundaries to protect your mental health.
Find joy in activities unrelated to dating.
Regularly connect with your friends and family for accountability and support.
Remember that although finding someone to love is important, it does not have to be your main focus or source of peace. Establishing a solid foundation of self-care can provide the renewed energy needed to approach Christian dating in a healthy way.
Trust God’s Timing
When it comes to dating, many people feel frustrated when nothing is coming together. While the world seems to offer instant gratification in many aspects of life, we must remember that God does not always follow the same framework. Trusting in His timing can be difficult; however, it is essential for avoiding Christian dating burnout. Instead of becoming anxious and overwhelmed with the process, it's important to patiently place your trust in God’s hands. He knows what timing is best for your ultimate relationship goals.