Are you putting yourself out there, going on first dates, but not meeting anyone you really connect with? Perhaps you’ve joined a dating app but can’t find anyone who shares your values and beliefs. Maybe it’s been so long since you’ve had a boyfriend or girlfriend that you’re starting to wonder if it’s in the cards for you.
Whatever dating frustrations you’re experiencing, you’re not alone. It's perfectly natural to feel disappointed with your love life from time to time. But it also doesn’t have to stay that way. Here are three things to do when dating frustrations are getting you down.
1. Stop Looking for Love
This doesn’t mean stopping dating altogether but releasing the pressure to “fall in love” and “find the one.” Rather than going into every conversation and date with a strict agenda, relax and be in the moment. Make your first priority having fun, your second priority learning about the person you’re with, and your third priority building a friendship. If you do this and realize the person is boyfriend or girlfriend material, that’s great–but it doesn’t need to be the focus of every date.
2. Learn to Laugh Things Off
While dating frustrations are real, sometimes it’s better for your heart and soul to laugh things off. Got an inappropriate message on a dating app? Laugh it off (and report them if you feel the need to). Have an awkward first date where the conversation definitely did not flow? Laugh it off (and jot down a few first-date questions to ensure it doesn’t happen again). Find someone you’re interested in, but they live across the country? Laugh it off (and try long-distance dating). While it’s good to take dating seriously, sometimes you just need to laugh things off to relieve some of the frustrations that come along with it.
3. Practice Gratitude
It’s easy to feel like nothing is going right when your love life isn’t going as planned. But it’s important to remember all the good things you have, even if a relationship isn’t one of them right now. Practicing gratitude might not change the reality of your dating frustrations, but it will help you feel happier and more positive–focusing on the good things you have in life rather than what’s missing. When you start to get discouraged with your love life, pause and list three things you’re grateful for–gratitude changes your attitude!