Many of us grow up with the dream of getting married. We imagine our wedding day and the spouse we will spend the rest of our life with. So, when we reach a certain age and are still single, it can be easy to wonder, "Why am I not married yet?" If you're wondering why you're still single, even though you've been hoping and praying for marriage, don't despair. There are many reasons why someone may find themselves in a "waiting season" when it comes to love and marriage. Here are five of the most common reasons you’re still in yours.
1. You Haven’t Met “The One”
This is probably the most obvious reason, but it's worth mentioning because it's also the most common reason. If you haven't met your soulmate yet, don't worry–they're out there somewhere, and you'll find each other when the time is right. It’s way better to wait longer than you hoped or thought you’d have to than to settle for someone who isn’t the person God has planned for you.
2. You’re Not Ready for Marriage Yet
Maybe you've been focusing on your career or other goals, and you haven't had time to focus on finding a partner and getting married. That's perfectly normal, and there's no rush to get married if you're not ready. Before jumping into a serious relationship, it’s important to make sure you are healthy, happy, and thriving all on your own. That way, you won’t feel the need to depend on another person to make you “whole.”
3. You Have Trust Issues
Marriage takes trust, and if you've been hurt in past relationships, it can be difficult to open yourself up to a relationship again. But if you want to find lasting love, it's important to work through your trust issues so that you can let someone new into your life. Start with prayer and ask God to reveal areas of your heart that need mending. You might also try therapy or talking with a spiritual counselor to help you forgive and move into a place where you can trust people again.
4. You’re a Little Too Picky
It's great to have standards when it comes to finding a partner. But if you're too picky, you may be excluding potential partners who could make a wonderful spouse. While you may have some things that are non-negotiables–for example, you may only want to date someone with the same religious beliefs as you–there are some things worth bending on a little. Be open to new ideas when it comes to appearance, career path, and age. After all, what a person is like on the inside counts the most.
5. You’re Not Putting Yourself Out There
One of the main reasons you’re not married yet might be because you’re not actively meeting new people. While there’s still a chance you’ll bump into your soulmate at the grocery store like in a rom-com, it’s getting more and more unlikely. Instead, Christian singles use dating apps like Upward to connect with like-minded people and see if there’s a spark.
While there's no shame in being single at any age, it can be easy to feel like you're falling behind if all your friends are getting married and starting families. If you’re still in your waiting season, you might try a new dating app or resolve some of your trust issues to be in a healthy relationship. That way, you will be ready when God brings that special someone into your life to marry!