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4 Ways to Secure a Second Date

You meet someone you really like, and all signs point to a second date–the conversation flows naturally, there’s chemistry in the air, and you click intellectually. It's exciting to think about what could come of it, but how do you secure that next date? Keep reading for our best tips to get you a second date (and even a third, fourth, fifth, and forever date if you’re lucky).

1. Pay Attention

Being super attentive during a first date is one of the best ways to secure a second. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and show a genuine interest in getting to know them. Body language can go a long way and send out the right first-date signals that say you’re having a good time and would love a second date.

2. Have Fun

The more relaxed you are, the more fun you’ll have–and an enjoyable first date usually leads to a second one. Rather than focusing on impressing your date or saying all the “right things,” prioritize interesting conversations and exciting activities. Check out our fun first-date ideas that will make your date more likely to say yes to a second. Also–don’t think you can’t have fun on a virtual date! These virtual first-date ideas will leave everybody excited for the next one.

3. Be Real

You want someone to want a second date with you, not a pretend version of the “you” that you think they want. In short, be real. Be yourself. That’s the best way to see if there is a genuine connection and possibility for future romance. Faking who you really are is one of the Christian dating mistakes to avoid if you want a lasting relationship, which starts with that second date.

4. Ask for It

The BEST way to secure a second date is simply to ask for it. While it might be a little nerve-racking, there is something refreshingly romantic about showing vulnerability and being willing to get out of your comfort zone to secure a connection with someone else. You can increase your chances of getting a “Yes!” by getting creative. Rather than sending a text or dating app message, pick up the phone or find another unique way to ask–do it in a song or poem, if that’s your style. If done right, it can be a great conversation starter as well as an exciting way to secure a second date–which could be one of many more to come!



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