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The Top 3 Things Christians Should Look For:

Are you dating to find a long-term relationship that leads to marriage? If so, it’s important to look for someone with the characteristics you want in a partner. We can all agree that someone who is kind, open-minded, a good listener, easy-going, and dependable would probably make a great partner. So what else should you consider when dating for marriage? Here are the top three things Christians should look for in a partner above all else.

1. Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is a pillar of a strong relationship. While you might think it’d be hard to know if someone loves unconditionally after a few dates, there are some tell-tale signs. A person who loves unconditionally typically shows this by:

• Putting others’ needs above their own

• Being patient and understanding

• Encouraging others and building people up

• Respecting other peoples’ opinions and beliefs

• Listening without interrupting

These are all signs of someone who loves like Christians are called to in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Love is patient, kind, and selfless; it always protects, trusts, perseveres, and hopes. It isn’t jealous or proud. Find a person who embodies these attributes of love, and you’ve found someone who can love unconditionally.

2. Mutual Respect

Respect is another foundational pillar of a healthy relationship–one that can lead to a successful marriage. With respect comes honesty, trustworthiness, and loyalty. When looking for a partner, keep an eye out for red flags like controlling behavior and disrespecting your boundaries. If someone disrespects you early on in the relationship (when people typically put their best foot forward), it’s probably best to move on.

3. Shared Beliefs

Finding someone who shares your beliefs is essential. Not only does it allow you to learn and grow together in your faith, but it can also provide comfort in knowing that someone else understands your ideals and desires spiritual growth alongside you. With shared convictions and beliefs, you have a solid foundation on which to build your relationship. You can pray together, attend church together, and seek God together–creating a life you love that honors Him.