5 Unrealistic Expectations in Christian Dating

When it comes to Christian dating, it’s easy to get caught up in ideas that aren’t exactly realistic. You might not even realize how much these expectations can influence your relationships. By letting go of these unrealistic ideas, you’ll create space for stronger and healthier connections. Here are a few unrealistic expectations to adjust. 

1. They’ll Be Perfect in Every Way

It’s tempting to believe that your future partner will tick every single box on your list, but the truth is, no one is perfect (Romans 3:23). Everyone has flaws and quirks, including you. Instead of searching for perfection, look for someone who’s growing in their faith and willing to work on themselves.

2. You’ll Instantly Know They’re “The One”

Many people expect a lightning bolt moment when they meet their future spouse, but relationships don’t always start that way. Love often takes time to grow. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Take the time to truly get to know someone before jumping to conclusions. (You might even consider beginning a relationship as friends first!)

3. They’ll Meet All Your Emotional Needs

It’s easy to fall into the trap of expecting your partner to fill every emotional gap in your life. While your significant other can provide love and support, they aren’t a substitute for your relationship with God. Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Trust Him to be the ultimate source of fulfillment.

4. If It’s Meant to Be, It’ll Be Effortless

There’s a misconception that if you’re with the “right” person, everything will always feel easy. But relationships require effort, communication, and compromise. Even strong Christian couples face challenges. Colossians 3:13 reminds us to “bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.”

5. They’ll Always Make You Happy

Your partner will likely bring you joy, but no one can make you happy 24/7. Placing your happiness entirely on someone else sets unrealistic expectations and can lead to disappointment. True joy comes from the Lord. Psalm 16:11 says, “You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence.” Be sure to keep your heart connected to Christ as the ultimate source of hope, peace, and joy. 

Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations for Better Dating

By recognizing and letting go of these unrealistic expectations, you’ll approach dating with a healthier mindset. When you focus on building a Christ-centered relationship, you can create a connection that lasts through both the good times and the challenges.