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Here's How Not To Lose Yourself While Dating

How not to lose yourself while dating

Dating can be super fun, but it’s important not to lose yourself along the way. Too often, people get wrapped up in a relationship and forget about their hobbies, friends, and what’s most important to them. You’ve got to stay true to yourself and make sure your happiness doesn't just come from your partner. Here’s how not to lose yourself while dating.

Know Your Values

Before jumping into the dating pool, take a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your core values? What principles guide your life? Writing these down can provide a clear foundation that helps you navigate relationships without compromising your beliefs. 

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” - Matthew 6:21

Set Boundaries

Knowing your boundaries — and how to communicate them — is key to not losing yourself while dating. These boundaries can be emotional, physical, or even digital. Make sure they align with your values and share them clearly with the people you date. Sticking to your boundaries will help you maintain self-respect and mutual respect within the relationship.

Keep Pursuing Your Passions

It's important to continue doing the things that make you happy and fulfilled outside of your relationship. Whether it’s a hobby, a career goal, or spending time with friends and family, make sure you’re taking time for yourself. This not only keeps you grounded but also makes you a more interesting and well-rounded person. 

Stay Connected with Friends and Family

Your support system plays a super important role in your life. Don’t neglect your friends and family because of a new relationship. They’ve been with you through thick and thin and can offer valuable advice and perspective. Plus, maintaining these connections ensures you have a balanced life.

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Honest communication is the bedrock of a healthy relationship. Be open about your feelings, desires, and concerns. This transparency builds trust and understanding. Remember, a relationship is a partnership, and both of you should feel comfortable expressing yourselves.

Always Be Reflecting

Take time to regularly reflect on your relationship. Are you happy? Do you feel like yourself? Are your needs being met? These reflections can help make sure the relationship is adding value to your life rather than detracting from it.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” - Proverbs 4:23

Trust Your Intuition

Your intuition is a powerful tool. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it. Listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit and have the courage to address any issues that arise. Trusting God and following His guidance is key to navigating dating with peace and purpose — without losing yourself in the process.



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