How to Deal When They Don't Like You Back

Picture this: you’ve met the (seemingly) perfect person on your Christian online dating app. You’ve messaged back and forth, and the conversation seems to flow. You muster up the courage to ask him or her on a first date, and the excitement builds. You have a great first date where you get to know each other better, and you feel like this could be the one! The only problem? They don’t feel the same way. Ouch. Here’s how to deal when they don’t like you back.


First, Give it Time...



While you may get the feeling that your (seemingly) perfect date doesn’t share the same feelings of rainbows and butterflies as you, it might just take them a bit to let their guard down. Before moving on, ask if they’d like to go on a second date. If they do, you’re on the right track. Give it time to get to know each other. Their feelings may grow after spending more time with you.


But Know When to Stop



If, after hanging out a few times, you still find yourself being the one who always texts first or keeps the conversation going, the chemistry probably isn’t there. For a relationship to be successful, both people need to be committed to making it work. Know when it’s time to move on and find someone who thinks as highly of you as you do of them.


Then, Let Yourself Have All the Feelings…



Having deep feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same way is painful. It just is. So don’t feel bad about eating that tub of ice cream and watching sad love movies for a few days. Let your emotions out and process your feelings. It’s important to remember that there isn’t anything wrong with you. When someone doesn’t like you back, it just means the person who will is still out there waiting for you. Ask God for the strength to move past the pain of unrequited love and trust Him to bring the right person into your life.


And Keep Looking for Love



People come into your life for all different reasons. Even if things don’t work out as you hoped, it doesn’t mean the experience was a waste. Take a look at how things went down and what you can learn from it. How does this relationship prepare you for the next one? Even though it hurts when someone doesn’t like you back, it doesn’t mean you should stop looking for love. When you start to worry about whether or not you’ll ever find the right person, shift your focus to God. Remember, He is the one writing your love story, so it’s going to be a good one whenever it comes to be.