Nowadays, online dating is one of the best ways for Christian singles to meet others looking for love. It’s exciting when you match with someone you’re interested in and the conversation starts to flow. But how much can you really tell from a message? Sooner or later, you might find yourself wondering if the person on the other end is crushing on you like you are on them. Here are four ways to tell if your match is into you by their online dating app messages.
1. They Ask Really Good Questions
Asking questions is how you get to know someone. From fun, easy questions like your favorite color to more profound questions like your hopes and dreams for the future, asking questions is the first indication that your crush is into you. The more questions they ask, the more they want to get to know you, and that’s a good sign. (So, if you really like the person, be sure to ask your fair share of questions, too!)
2. They Respond to Your Messages Quickly
When someone is into you, they’ll stay engaged in the conversation and not leave you hanging for too long. Of course, things come up, and people get busy. But even in the midst of life, if someone is intentional about responding to your messages, there’s a good chance they are into you. On the other hand, if someone only responds periodically with short messages or ghosts you altogether, they probably aren’t the love you’ve been looking for.
3. They Put in Effort to Keep the Conversation Going
Relationships are a two-way street. Both people need to put in the effort to get to know each other and keep the relationship moving forward. If your crush puts in the effort to keep the conversation flowing, there’s a good chance they are into you. This might look like asking questions about you, starting a conversation about a new topic when one comes to an end, or messaging you just to say good morning. While there will likely be some awkwardness initially, if they attempt to keep the conversation going, it’s probably because they enjoy getting to know you and don’t want the connection to stop.
4. They Say Yes to a Date
Probably the tell-all as to whether or not your crush is into you is how they respond to your invitation to go on a first date. If they say yes, it’s safe to say they like what they know of you and want to get to know you better. If they say no, they might not be feeling the same way you are. If they say not yet, that’s ok. Continue to message them on the dating app and help them get to know you even more. You can also suggest doing a video call first before hanging out in person. This may ease some of the awkwardness of a first date by seeing each other face to face before committing to an outing.
If you do all of these things and still can’t tell if your crush is into you, just ask them! It’s better to know if you’re on the same page than spend time getting to know someone who just isn’t feeling it with you.