Have you ever gotten a message from a “match” on a dating app that was a little more raunchy than you’d like? It happens to pretty much everyone. Seriously, regardless if you’re crystal clear about being a Christian in your bio or do your best to keep the conversation nice and clean, there is always that person who puts a dirty spin on things. When you get a dating app message like this and you aren’t sure how to respond, try one of these 4 ways.
How Do You Respond to a Dating App Message that Isn’t Exactly PG?
Whether the conversation starts nice but then takes a turn for the worse, or someone tries to break the ice with a dirty pickup line or extremely forward question about hooking up, you have options for how to respond in a “Christian” way.
The Confrontational Way
If someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to confront them. You probably aren’t the first to hear it and definitely aren’t the only one who doesn’t appreciate it. You don’t have to be rude (because that wouldn’t be very Christian of you), but you can be honest. Let them know you don’t appreciate the sexual innuendos, super personal questions, or whatever it was they said that just didn’t sit well with you. Depending on their response, you can either decide to engage further in the conversation or leave it be and move on to the next match who may be more your type.
The Let-It-Go and Go Method
If you haven’t been talking to the person long and don’t have any type of real relationship established, you don’t need to be confrontational if you don’t want to be. Sometimes it’s ok to just let things go and move on. It can be as simple as saying, “I’m not into that type of stuff, but I hope you swipe right on someone who is!” And leave it at that.
The Silent Treatment
If your match starts off the conversation with a question or statement that makes you feel uncomfortable or makes it clear they likely aren’t the guy or girl God has planned for you, don’t feel obligated to respond at all. It sends a pretty clear message that you’re no longer interested. And since you haven’t had any type of interaction with them (other than swiping right on their profile), it technically isn’t considered “ghosting.” You can simply, silently move right on your way.
The Second Chance
If you’ve been having a nice conversation with someone and they start to turn the conversation in a direction you don’t want it to go, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop talking to them. Do your best to spin the conversation back in your ideal direction. If you really want to get to know the person, give them a chance to respect that. If they do, you’re good to go. If not… it might be time to end the convo once and for all.
The most important thing is that you feel comfortable… comfortable with the topics of the conversation and comfortable enough to move on when it just isn’t working for you!