Let’s face it: dating can be one of the most stressful, frustrating, uncomfortable things ever. There’s the first date, where you see if there’s a spark or a connection worth pursuing. There are hard conversations and challenges to work through to determine if your relationship can go the distance. There might even be some heartbreak, whether you’re the one doing the breaking or not. And while you can’t make those things go away, you can do these four things to make Christian dating more exciting and less stressful.
1. Be Yourself
Whether you’re messaging someone on a dating app or meeting up for a first date, relax and let your personality shine through. Remember, the person you're dating is interested in YOU, not some "perfect" version of you that you think they want to see. And if the relationship does go the distance, it’s better that they know the real you from the start.
2. Choose Fun Dates
You don’t have to do all the “traditional” couple stuff if that doesn’t interest you. Keep things fresh by doing new things together. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone, try a new hobby, or conquer your fears to try one of theirs. Plan dates that are creative and memorable, and enjoy getting to know someone new.
3. Save the Serious Stuff for Later
Don't take yourself (or your date) too seriously. Yes, your relationship is important, but it’s equally important to have fun while getting to know someone new. Christian dating doesn't have to be super serious conversations all the time. There’s a time and a place for serious discussions, but don’t rush them. Instead, encourage your date to share their hobbies, interests, and sense of humor with you. And let yourself enjoy the beginning stages of a new relationship.
4. Be Confident in Yourself, the Christian Dating Process, and God
One of the most stressful parts of dating is navigating where the relationship is going. However, rather than spending your time wondering if the other person likes you as much as you like them and if they are “the one,” trust yourself, the process, and (most importantly) God. When you’re confident in yourself and what you offer, you can relax and stop wondering if you’re good enough (you are!). When you’re confident in the Christian dating process, you understand it takes time to find the best match for you, and that’s ok. And when you’re confident in God, you can trust that He knows what He’s doing and will guide you to the best relationship in His perfect time. So, pray for guidance and wisdom as you navigate the Christian dating world. And with these tips in mind, you can approach dating with confidence and anticipation, knowing that God has a wonderful plan for your life!